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My Unplanned Lifestyle Change

Let’s start out by getting clear on a few things.  First, this is MY journey that, coincidentally, I had no foresight or intention to take.  Second, I have ZERO judgement towards people that choose to drink alcohol.  Third, I am not saying nor suggesting that I may not change my mind at some point and decide to have an alcoholic beverage.  Because the truth is,  I may,  and I’m giving myself permission to change my mind at any point.


Ok good, now that we have that out of the way, I can begin.


I am honestly not even sure how long it has been since I’ve had an alcoholic beverage, but if I HAD to guess, I would say it has been about 9 or 10 months.  Even then, I probably had a drink here or there on occasion since giving birth to Sophia and obviously didn’t drink at all while I was pregnant with her.  The last time I have a vivid memory of drinking was at my wedding to Omari and if you weren’t there, I guess you will never know how that worked out for me.  Ha!


For several years now I have been giving consideration to alcohol and what it does, or doesn’t do for me personally.  I also believe that when you know better, you do better and after truly understanding what alcohol does to the body and how it affects my sleep, recovery, judgement (that’s more like after several drinks) and even my food choices, I just started to feel like the juice wasn’t worth the squeeze for me.  Have you been at this point before?


What prompted me to share was a social media post I saw not too long ago on Instagram, which I shared.  It said something about how it’s strange to consider that being alcohol free is a choice that shouldn’t need explanation and that it’s the only drug that we have to explain NOT using.  That really spoke to me for a few reasons. First of all, because I am a fan of honesty,  I know that I have been in social situations before and judged others who didn’t choose to drink.  I always want to kick myself when an example pops up about a time I was super judgy about something, especially someone else’s choices, but this is how we learn and grow.  Secondly, I haven’t been in a social situation in who knows how long- (hello COVID) but I get a little anxious thinking about the next time I will be.  Am I going to have to explain over and over why I don’t want a drink?


Considering this unplanned lifestyle change,  I guess I should mention why I have made this decision for this chapter of my life.  The weird thing is, I don’t really have a clear cut answer.  I just don’t want to drink.  It doesn’t make me feel good, I don’t like what it does to my body, I don’t need it and I honestly just don’t want it.  So there you have it – no juicy, elaborate reason or story.  I just decided I don’t want to drink it right now.  And like I said, I may very well change my mind at some point.  But for now and the foreseeable future, I’m happy without it. I think the fact that people are talking about having to explain the choice not to drink made me want to shed light on it. It really is an individual lifestyle choice.


Have you ever explored not drinking alcohol?  Why or why not?  I’d love to hear both perspectives.


Sending joy,




  • Kimberly Cumbie

    23 October 2020 at 06:48

    I don’t drink nor does my husband. I have only drank a couple times and it just never was for me. I see all the social media about it and the moms joking about it’s wine time. I guess it’s a way that they relax. I instantly relax after all the kids are in bed. My life doesn’t really allow it anyways. I work nights 4 days a week. My husband works long hours. So we really wouldn’t have time anyways. I have a hard time understanding it. Alcoholics run deep in my family and his. So I guess we choose a different path.

  • Donna Spicer

    24 October 2020 at 07:12

    Back in my “younger days” I used to be called the “queen of shots”. Everyone who came to our house on a weekend knew it was going to be a heavy night, and they would end up staying the entire weekend partying.

    On several occasions my boss, who I was friends with partied with us. More than once we would wake on a Monday morning, and I would tell her I was calling out sick.

    To look back on those days. Yes we had lots of fun. But my body and mind took so much abuse. It took my emotions and behavior in directions they should have never gone.

    Wind forward 20 years I like to think I am “older and wiser”. Nearly four years ago I guess I had an epiphany. I wasn’t that person I used to be. Drinking no longer had a place in my life. Still, like many I was on a journey to understand myself. Explore my mind and body at a much deeper level.

    One day I just stopped drinking. Nearly four years ago now, there is never a moment I even want a drink. There has never been a moment where I just “had a sip”.

    When asked why I don’t drink, my reply is simply “because I choose not to”. I have awakened a part of me that is open to new philosophies, new spirituality, and new kindness to myself and others.

    Four years ago I woke up and began a different journey…

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